First congrats on being wine free. I don't have kids, but i have a feeling you are not alone in these feelings with your kids. I have siblings with kids and hear their conversations.. and thier kids are not even teens yets.

Quitting booze is amazing, and hopefully your withdrawals stop soon. It took me about 6 months not not be a complete disaster.. and i was alone not with a family. I send you lots of good wishes. Keep writing about it, i noticed that helps!!