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If you are the victim in your life, I hope you see it and get help
We have all had that one friend or family member who is the ¨victim¨. In the past, I have been a victim also. I had an ex-boyfriend who used to tell me to stop being a victim.
I was in my late 20s and honestly had no idea what he meant. All I knew was that the world was against me, and nothing was my fault. I was also young and not raised around family members who encouraged therapy or healing.
To get through life, you put your head down, work, and eventually die. That no longer worked when I grew up and wanted to be an active part of society. I realized that my ex had a point, and I was depressed and miserable, so I got help.
It took a while for me to finally start to not feel like the victim, oh and I learned what the definition of me being a victim meant. We ended up breaking up, but the lessons I learned in that relationship have been with me.
I learned to take responsibility for my own life and what happens; whether or not others play a part, it is up to me to be in the driver’s seat of my life. With this said, I have noticed that not many people want to take responsibility for their own lives.
