oh wow.. so much of this i did in the past.. when i do xyz i will be happy.. and that is never the answer. I used to always want to fix others, and help them be happy.. that is not my job, but it took me years to learn, and i am still learning!!

I always feel others used to dictate happiness to me, but they ¨gave up¨ when i didnt listen, i just would laugh, cuz they had no clue.