The irrational fear in our heads keeps us stuck in our prison

I have been back on the road for about two weeks now, and meeting travelers is always interesting.

Sara Burdick

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Manizales, Colombia sunsets

Many of us have left our homes, families, and, most important, careers/jobs. When this topic of conversation comes up, it always goes to the point of ¨why didn’t I do it sooner¨ or ¨why was I so scared and of what?

We often tend to be scared of the made-up story in our head about what will happen. We are so worried about the IF and all the imaginary scenarios that we never take that first step.

We keep ourselves stuck in the prison of our minds. It is not just in the example of travel but in everything.

When I was a nurse, I had a job working in the Radiology department, but I was not too fond of it. I knew I wanted to quit, and I complained so much I was sick of hearing myself, so I decided one day to leave; I had a second job and would figure it out.

I put in my two weeks and, of course, was stressed. I wanted to go part-time to keep my benefits, but everyone told me I would never be able to go part-time because this hospital does not keep part-time nurses, which was true.

So I quit instead of even asking. However, the part-time gods had my back. A week into my final two weeks, my boss called me into her office; she was with her boss, and they wanted to make a deal.

So we talked; I asked for a six-week vacation and to only work two days a week and keep full-time benefits, plus I would still take calls once a month. They agreed, and my co-worker was jealous. Even though she would never tell me, she had wanted to go part-time for years but never asked.

Everyone asked me how I did it; I said when they asked what it would take me to stay, I told them. Well, first, I quit, but then I learned an important lesson about asking for what you want.

Instead of jumping in front of the train, ask first, and if they deny your request, be prepared to jump. I would say we all came to a compromise on what worked for all of us to be happy.

I stayed part-time for another nine months before I knew if it was time to go. Yet going part-time gave me the…

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Sara Burdick

I quit the rat race after working as a nurse for 16 years. Travel and Storyteller. I live in Colombia. https://linktr.ee/saraaliceburdick