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Why I dislike writing about relationships, especially when other people are involved
A friend always tells me to write about what has happened in my past relationships.
What happened, why they failed, and generally, talk about them. Here is the thing, I was angry for so long, and if you had asked me to write about my past relationships years ago, I would have had pages and pages to write on one specific topic.
Now, no, I have no advice about relationships.
Except they are work, and they are complicated, and they are always worth it, no matter how they end. Each of us knows someone in a bad one, and each of us knows someone in a good one.
Since I have been in both, I defer to those who enjoy writing about them, and that person is not me.
Plus, writing has helped me work out so many issues that I did not realize I had. Some days I think I can write about what happened when I was married over 15 years ago, and then I sit to write and realize no, I can’t. It takes two to tango, mainly because I do not want to, and we both did our fair share of destruction.
I have processed most of it by writing my way through other issues in more current relationships and even through other people’s stories. I live by the…
