Why I Stopped Writing About My Romantic Relationships

Don’t we all love to look into someone else’s romantic relationship and judge?

When I started writing, I would write about anything that popped into my head. I was in a new relationship then and determined to make writing my new career.

Looking back, I could have used a bit of discernment and kept many things to myself instead of writing about them. After writing online for almost three years, I am figuring out how to keep my personal life involving others to myself while still sharing my stories.

The balance has been challenging but possible. I have simply declared one rule: I will not write about personal relationships or dating. This rule also applies to my social media accounts.

Why have I made this decision?

When I write about my issues, it is the same as complaining to a friend. They will automatically choose sides without realizing they do, and they will choose sides without hearing all of the information or giving the other person the benefit of the doubt.

Trust me, inside my head, I can make anything distorted to make myself the good guy, most of us can. We can manipulate the narrative and make the other person always the bad guy or girl.

A few chosen words that that person may or may not have said and how they interpret the words written on paper. Many people will also put their own experiences onto your experience, and I have learned that no one’s experience is the same.

Although some people may have similar characteristics, no two people are the same. We all have issues and traumas that we are working on.

Even if something good happens in my relationships, I have kept it to myself. One person will always find fault in your relationships, whether out of jealousy, envy, or simply because, for no reason.

Nobody is perfect, including the person writing the stories. Deciding to do this has improved my ability to set boundaries, even simply with myself.

Life can be complicated enough, but allowing others to comment on or judge your choices and decisions can be devastating.

One of the biggest lessons I have learned this year has been to take a step away from the online world and reflect on what I want to share.

XOXO

S